Geeks and social skills · Jan 6, 06:46 AM by Dave Polaschek
Got told yesterday that there’s a friend of mine who’d like to see me more often. It was suggested that maybe he should call or email or send smoke signals or something because I didn’t actually have a clue about this. Apparently my spidey-sense wasn’t tingling when it should have.
But it raises an interesting question for me. Now that I know this, should I shoot off an email, or should I wait and see how long it takes? I haven’t decided yet, and either way, I think the results might be informative. It’s not so much that I want to perform experiments on my friends, but I am fascinated by the various ways in which people behave. And I’m reluctant to suggest anything at the moment, since I’m still settling in to the new job. My schedule isn’t packed, but I don’t always know ahead of time which evenings are going to lead to me wanting to get out of the house, and which are going to beg for an evening of collapsing on the couch and staring at the idiot-box until I have to drag my sorry mass upstairs to be. I usually don’t know which way an evening is going to go until I’m on the way home from work.
What all that means is that I tend not to contact folks to suggest outings, and apparently I’m not the only one. And here’s a clear sign that a guy could break the impasse, and I’m not sure whether to be the first one to do something about it or not.
I guess I’ll figure it out. But probably not today. Or maybe I just did.
I find, personally, that I’m way more likely to not just hermit up at home if I have plans. If I’m already up on my day, I just wanna go home and go to bed.
If I’ve made PLANS, then I’ve made PLANS and I go out and usually have a good time, even if I’m not inclined to go 15 minutes before I actually do.
But then, I’m A GIRL.
— Steph Jan 6, 07:33 PM #Agreed on all of the above. Except I like hermiting up far too often…
— DaveP Jan 8, 07:18 PM #Maybe geeks just like to hermit up, ‘cause I’m definitely in that camp. But my wife is definitely in the make plans and do them camp. Interesting thread.
— Michael Jan 10, 08:54 PM #
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